Thursday, 9 June 2016

Swingers Clubs: How Not to Do It

Henry and I haven't been going out as much, but things are all fine here. We've just been tired and busy with life. Now that summer is coming, we're hoping to be getting out a bit more. We did have a lovely date night last weekend where we went to the lake and had a wine and cheese picnic. Seems like that is one of "our" things and I really enjoy it. Good food, a nice bottle of wine, and good conversation, even if we get a little tipsy. Wine and cheese always feels so decadent to me and I love that.

But, we have been having a little fun! Last night Henry and I went to a swinger's club. Not our usual scene, but it seems like lately neither of us is really looking for another relationship but we're both certainly open to casual play or sex with friends. Different things suit better at different points in our lives, right?

We were there in the afternoon teaching a workshop, since it seems like there are some issues when swingers try to cross over and join us BDSM'ers, and neither group is being malicious but there are definitely hard feelings on both sides when things go wrong. I discussed this a little previously but the idea that swingers might think it's okay to casually touch someone or pick up one of their toys would go over like a lead balloon at a BDSM party. Their terminology is also different from ours (and I see that here as well when people use the terms Dom or sub, they don't mean what I assume those terms to mean).

On the plus side, I think it's great to get to teach them about kink and a little about our community because experimenting is so much fun and if we can help with it, we'd like to. It's just good to make sure that no one's toes get stepped on in the process!

I had been emailing with a couple off Craigslist who told us they were completely brand new at anything; married for 23 years and never with any other partners. So we suggested dinner and chatting, and they could come to the club as our guests and participate to whatever their level of comfort was. They seemed like nice enough people. After dinner, we all went back to the club and chatted in the bar. I'm a little bit of an introvert when it comes to joining new groups of people who all know each other, so it was kind of nice to have people to hang out with, and it also helped that people recognized me from the workshop earlier and wanted to try out the toys I had demonstrated :)

So we invited one of the women who asked, *Jess, to come downstairs with us and we'd give her a little taste of it. Funny how negotiations at a swing club are so different though! She said to me, OK, I'll be the sub and I'll do what you guys say. Fun as that sounds, I just can't do that without knowing more about what she wants and what she doesn't like, so I had to draw her out a bit. But it wasn't long before the five of us were piled into a curtained off corner (since our new friends wanted to watch), and Henry and I turned on the violet wand and started working her over. We started off slowly and sensually and soon she was squirming delightfully. I was playing with her breasts and kissing her while Henry played with her pussy. We traded positions afterwards since I wanted to lick her pussy and she loved the sensation of tiny electric shocks on her clit! It wasn't long before she had a few awesome squirting orgasms and we were all sweaty and having a lot of fun :) Then she asked if she could watch Henry play with me, and I said of course! She nibbled on my neck while she reached around and unzipped my dress, and played with my nipples. I was already dripping wet when Henry slid his fingers into me, and it wasn't long before I was squirting all over the place, too. So much fun. I'm loud, so we attracted some voyeurs which I happen to enjoy as well.

Henry didn't want to cum so early in the evening, so I just sucked his cock for a little while and then stopped short, since we still had a few more hours at the club. And while squirting is fun, sitting in the puddles produced by two squirty girls isn't a lot of fun!

We got cleaned up and went back upstairs to the bar area and partway through we got stopped by a young black guy. I couldn't believe it when he completely ignored me and then said to Henry that he liked what he'd seen and if it was okay with him, he'd like to fuck me. I was standing right there and he was talking about me like I wasn't. Even aside from our D/s dynamic which he couldn't have known since Henry wasn't collared, I was offended just as a human being. I am not just a fuck doll and I don't like to be treated like one. Henry told me later he was floored, but he just replied that it was up to me. I told the guy that I didn't appreciate his assumptions, and he didn't seem to get it so I just walked away. Henry said he heard the guy say to himself "Looks like I blew that," and he totally did. He'd at least have had a shot at getting some action if he'd handled things differently. Gentlemen- if you want to fuck someone, at least take the time to talk to him/her! There was actually a different black guy later in the evening who tried to put his arm around me and ask for my number as we were leaving and I politely said no thank you. If someone wants to sit and chat with me and build up some chemistry, I like sex- I might be interested. But don't make me feel like meat.

We rehydrated a little in the bar, and the newbie couple we were with suggested they might like to try the violet wand as well. So we went downstairs after our break and found a private-ish corner to play in (she didn't really like the idea of being watched). I gave her the wand so the two of them could play around with it a little. They kept their clothes on so it was just sensory/sensual, but it was still fun to watch them break out of their shell and do a little exploring.

It was almost time for the club to close, sadly, and Henry and I were both a teensy bit disappointed since we thought we'd have time for a second round with someone else, but sex with each other is never a consolation prize! The newbies stayed to watch while I gloved up and played with Henry's prostate and sucked him to an orgasm so awesome he pulled a muscle. He said it was worth it :)

And of course, sexy time being a lovely kickstart to our libidos, we woke up this morning and had some nice sensual sex. Pussy, the breakfast of champions.


  1. Well I cant tell you the times some guy comes up to me and says he wants to play with my wife. I look a him like a dog staring at a clock and ask him if he thinks I have a pussy. when he says no why I tell him to talk to the one who owns the pussy! Yes they are ignorant. but overall I think you guys had some fun with your new friends

    1. I love your simile, by the way- I may have to borrow that at some point! What a great reply.

      We did have fun, yes :)

  2. I love your writing it is both informative and enjoyable. Next week I am venturing to a swingers/naturist club for an afternoon of hopefully hot fun. This will be a new experience and another learning curve I hope. I am a little bit nervous as I am not entirely comfortable with nudity being a requirement

    1. Glad you're enjoying it!

      I've never heard of a club that required nudity. Honestly, that wouldn't thrill me either. Part of the fun is stripping down your partner(s), wouldn't you say? ;)

  3. after my first black bull i knew i would never go white again

    1. Whatever floats your boat!

      Personally, I'm not the world's biggest fan of the world "bull" (I'm not a cow), and my partner's skin colour doesn't factor into things for me. But if you're enjoying yourself consensually, then it's all good by me!