I spent the night at John's house the past two evenings, but I got to come home in between while he was at work. So, I still spent time with Mark and with kiddo when school was out, had dinner at home before heading back out to spend the evening at John's. I am really starting to enjoy hot tubbing in the winter. Cold crisp air, but steamy hot water and it is just so relaxing and sexy and fun all at the same time. We've had some good conversations just hanging out in the hot tub. It's been a good way to get to know him better as a person. And I'm enjoying what I'm finding!
Aside from the time we're spending cuddling and chatting, we're finding we have a lot of common ground and enjoy a lot of the same vanilla hobbies. It's really nice to have a foundation for something more between us than just BDSM and D/s, although that is fucking fantastic, too.
We decided things were going well enough for us to commit to a one month D/s contract between the two of us. As of this Friday, I own his cock. He can't masturbate without receiving my permission. SO fucking hot. I can't wait. We're not looking into a device for now... I think the honour system is more sublime torture. So close, and yet so far. Our contract is relatively simple, but it spells out our expectations and obligations and a few other things, and just the idea is really sexy to me. He'll be mine. He wears no collar because that has more significance to me, but to all intents and purposes, for the next month he'll do what he's told. And then we'll go from there and see if we're both happy with the way the relationship is going. I really like how this builds in intervals for us to talk ab. out the relationship and what we like and what changes need making. I think that's really helpful and productive, and I'm glad that I was given the idea to use contracts early in a relationship.
We also got in some fun BDSM play. The first night we slept together, I found out he meant what he said when he told me he was cuddly at night! He woke me up three times trying to snuggle closer. Yeah... that wasn't going to fly. When we were getting ready for bed last night, I pulled out a set of wrist cuffs and rope, and told him if he couldn't keep his hands to himself, he was going to sleep with them loosely bound to the headboard. That produced the desired result, although I think it would have been fun to see him try to sleep like that! But he begged and promised to be good, and he was true to his word, so I suppose leaving it as a threat worked just as well. And it was fun to see the look on his face when he realized I was serious and this wasn't a time to tease me! I love his sassiness at times, but this wouldn't have been one of them!
Instead, I decided I wanted to have some fun with him. I pulled out a new set of nipple clamps, and they are nasty. I'm going to have to use them with my violet wand at some point! He is a pain slut and he told me they were hurting (but wasn't close to calling red) so I know these have a good bite to them. I also brought out my lovely clothespins and hung them from his balls, but this time I added some weighted clamps, too. Each one had adjustable 4oz weights and I didn't let him take the tension off. It was a lot of fun watching him react as I pulled them off... threatening to beat them off him with my crop. That had him whimpering... he is SO fun to tease. I can watch him turn into a pile of subby goo while I talk him through a fantasy. So lovely.
So far I'm really enjoying my new relationship. John is so appreciative and flattering and he just makes me feel so good. He is always touching me just because he likes to (and I mean nonsexually), and telling me how beautiful and attractive I am, but in different words. Today he told me that talking to me was the highlight of his day. Last night he told me he never sleeps with a woman who he can't look at in the morning and say "Oh fuck yeah." He has walked an hour to see me after work, in -5F weather. And he's a smoker, who never ever smokes around me no matter how long we're together. And he's actually quitting smoking so that he'll have more time and money to spend with me. Stuff like that... that's actions matching his words. He is showing me that he's invested in our relationship and that he wants to see me. And that's a really awesome feeling.
So I don't know where we're going, but I'm definitely enjoying the ride.