Thursday, 20 November 2014

Bad Girl Bloggers Award

I was flattered to see that I was nominated to receive this award by Lola. It's really nice to see that my blog is being read and hopefully enjoyed by lots of people! Thank you for thinking of me!

You caught me in a thinky mood tonight, though, so it'll be a bit of a digression from my usual posts. It's funny that I don't really consider myself to be a "bad girl", though. The picture is really sexy, though (and I want those shoes)! If we write about sex, does that make us bad? I love sex, in lots of different ways with lots of different people. I like casual fucking and the occasional one night stand, and I like making love with my husband in missionary in the dark sometimes. I like sex in public dungeons, and I like sex at swinger's clubs. I like sex in movie theaters, and I like sex on a front porch in broad daylight with neighbors walking by (and yes, I have stories for all of these, and perhaps not what you think!).

So, am I a bad girl? It made me think about gender and how society programs us to think about sexuality. If I was a man, would I be a bad boy? I don't think so. A man who had lots of casual sex would be a stud, someone to be admired. Women, generally, are perceived as sluts. Look at all the emphasis placed on the "number", or even the movie What's Your Number?.

What I love about my life is that I am free to connect with people in any way that feels right for both of us. That I am loved and accepted for being who I am, and for the different qualities that my partners and I can bring to each other's lives. Sometimes it's just some physical fun. Sometimes it's friendship, with or without sexual benefits. And sometimes it's romantic love. While it's fun to roleplay the vixen, I can't see any of those things making me a bad girl. Sex isn't bad, dirty, or unclean- it's awesome, whether we're doing it to get our rocks off, or as an expression of love for a partner. And it's just plain fun :) So be a bad girl if you like the label and want to be one... no matter what you do in (or out!) of the bedroom. Life's too short to let what society thinks dictate how we behave, as long as everyone involved consents of course.

How about a Sexy Sex Positive Blogger award? :) I'd be happy to nominate some lovely ladies for that. Here are some blogs that I read and really enjoy, and want to nominate them to be read regardless of how they identify themselves!

Ferns of Domme Chronicles writes some really excellent thoughts on F/m BDSM relationships.

Sassy of Same Sassy Girl is always interesting and entertaining.

Aphrodite & Adonis have some great stories (and sexy pictures!) to share.

And of course, I love the open mindedness and fun attitude of Lola!


  1. Well thought out! I suppose I have claimed "bad" and made it my own, the same way I've done with "slut" and "nympho." Bad, as in, badass! Hope you feel the same. Nice selection of blogs!!!

  2. Thank you! It's such a sweet surprise to be on such an auspicious list! I so appreciated you sharing the deeper thoughts. I'm struggling with these questions as I discover my sassy side and struggle to let it out. It feels good to me and the men appreciate it too!